Marriage: It's okay to say "I Do"

This past Saturday as I was perusing through Facebook, a friend of mine wrote on her status that she was attending a wedding. One of the things she said that stood out to me was, "I especially love the exchanging of vows. It's a mystery how two become one..." I immediately thought of Genesis wherein God stated, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

I found an article on ivillage.com about the Top Ten Reasons why men are afraid to commit. One reason is the fear of the lost of freedom. It is interesting to read these excuses (not reasons). The U.S. Census reports that over the past four decades, the rate of marriage has definitely been on the decrease. According to the National Marriage Project, a study undertaken at Rutgers University, men today are overwhelmingly apprehensive about getting married. Commitment and marriage are not anything to be afraid of. I’m not saying it’s just men either, there are many women who fear commitment too (past hurt, trust, etc.).

According to selfhelpbible.com, “You have to accept that no single person will ever fulfill all of your needs. Be realistic in your expectations of other persons because they are, after all, human beings just like you. Do not expect them to make you happy, because you don't make them happy all of the time right? Nobody is perfect.”

Why are you writing about this? What does this have to do with wedding planning?

I am speaking about this because one of the reasons I decided to become a wedding planner is because I am a true advocate of love and marriage (a hopeless romantic). I love weddings and seeing two individuals say "I do" is one of the most beautiful things to witness.

Soon the engagement season will start and many couples are contemplating marriage or already engaged, but have lingering questions and/or doubts. I admit marriage is not easy, this is a commitment made before God to spend the rest of your life with one person.  Many fear marriage because of the word “commitment.” Once that commitment is made, the purpose is not to prepare for that one day (the wedding) but prepare to spend a lifetime together, until death do you two part.

Until next time...
Ciao for now,


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On the Talk About Marriage forum, I found some very empowering words from a newsletter to couples that I wanted to share:

"The true meaning of marriage is love. By love, I mean not just what we feel but what we do. Love just as a feeling is very flimsy, an up and down roller coaster. Love is an action! In order for it to become the ultimate force and for us to rediscover the true meaning of marriage, love has to be unconditional…

This is not an easy road to walk. But it is the most rewarding road however. An old Buddhist saying goes like this, 'I want peace.' If you take your ego (I) and your desires (want) out of the equation, i.e., the self, you will have only peace left. The true meaning of marriage is expressing love unconditionally to another. It is an unstoppable force that can endure anything. How do you find it? Within yourself. You have to draw strength from you. Neither seeking validation nor acceptance, just seeking the opportunity to show love."

To read more & Credits:
Talk About Marriage, Click Here
Dating Tips: Learn How to Overcome the Fear of Commitment, Click Here
Why Are Men Scared of Commitment? Their 10 Reasons, Click Here